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|| Love makes the difference ||

 Love is not the answer to everything, but it creates a climate of security in which we can seek answers to those things that bother us.

Love is not our only emotional need. Psychologists has observed that among our basic needs are the need for security, self-worth, and significance. Love, however, interfaces with all of those.


If I feel loved by my partner, I can relax, knowing that my lover will do me no ill. I feel secure in her presence . I may face many uncertainties in my vocation. I may have enemies in other areas of my life, but with my spouse I feel secure. 

My sense of self-worth is fed by the fact that my spouse loves me. After all, if she loves me, I must be worth loving. My parents may have given me negative or mixed message about my worth, but my spouse knows me as an adult and loves me. Her love builds my self-esteem. 


True Love always liberates 

In the context of marriage, if we do not feel loved, our differences are magnified. we come to view each other as a threat to our happiness. but, when our partner lovingly invests time, energy, and efforts in us, We believe that we are significant. Without love, I may spend a lifetime in search of significance, self-worth, and security. When I experience love, it influences all of those needs positively.


I am now freed to develop my potential. I am more secure in my self-worth and can now turn my efforts outward instead of being obsessed with my own needs. Ture love always liberates .


Conclusion :

In the security of love, a couple can discuss differences without condemnation. Conflicts can be resolved. Two people who are different can learn to live together in harmony. We can discover how to bring out the best in each other and that is the magic of true love. 

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