ALPHA BODY LANGUAGE
I could go into great detail about the body language of an alpha male. But, there is a more effective way for you to learn body language. And that is to find and emulate a "body language role model."
My recommendation? Daniel Craig's James Bond or Marlon Brando ( especially in films like "The Wild One" ). A real-life figure with very sturdy alpha male body language is Vladimir Putin. (You might not like his politics, but that's beside the point). Watch some clips from these movies (and Putin) and emulate the way they move, walk, talk, sit, gesture, and so on.
You will notice that they manage to simultaneously convey calmness and authority. They're relaxed but dominant. They don't beat their chest and shout about how great they are, but the power of their presence is felt nonetheless.
You never see them with a goofy big grin, nor a look of shock or desperation. They are not easily impressed, nor are they easily ruffled or upset. They're somewhat stoic. They've seen incredible things and they've also faced mighty challenges, and so very little fazes them.
LESS IS MORE
"When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinx-like. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say the more likely you are to say something foolish".
Law 4: Always say less than necessary, from The 48 laws of power by ROBERT GREENE
Many so-called "nice guys" talk waayyy too much.
I remember once doing some work in Bangalore. There were these two girls and a guy (who, I'd seen earlier that same day in the gym).
He was muscular, tall, had great facial structure, and had all that a guy could hope for in terms of physical attractiveness. Take a look at him and you'd think he'd have no trouble with the ladies.
You want to know the problem? He talked too much. And no, not as in the sometimes talked a bit more than necessary. He literally could not stop talking. I don't know if that's how he always is or if he was just trying to impress the girls he was with, but bout did he talk.
Anyway, the lesson here is this: The less you say, the better. When you're with a girl, get her to talk. Don't talk on and on and on, and don't brag or otherwise seek to impress her. It just comes off as insecure.
Also, the less you say, the more mysterious you seem-she has yet to "figure you out." Finally, this rule of saying less applies to other means of communication, too. Far too many involuntarily celibate nice guys constantly text woman they like. They send her "good morning" texts. They send her "good night" texts. Happy birthday texts, and so on.
1. Have open and expansive body language: Take up space. Stop crossing your arms and legs. Instead, rest your arm on the back of a chair next to you, or clasp your hands behind your head, or something similar.
2.
Move slowly and deliberately: Replace quick, jerky
movements with relaxed, deliberate movements. Replace quick little steps
with big, confident, steady strides,
perhaps with a bit of a swagger.
3.
Emulate a ‘body language role model: Watch some clips of Daniel Craig’s James Bond,
Marlon Brando in “The Wild One”, and Vladimir Putin walking about. Emulate
the way these men walk, talk, sit, gesture,
as well as their facial expressions, and so on.
4.
Cut the excessive
talking: When it comes to talking,
less is more. (To a certain
extent at least.
You can’t just be 100 percent
silent).
5.
Don’t text so much. Also, don’t instantly reply. Leave anywhere from a few hours to a day. (Or,
if you want a rule of thumb, double the amount of time she took to respond to
you. If she took 40 minutes, wait an hour and 20 minutes
until you respond.)
Also, keep in mind that you should really only use texting to set up “dates.”
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